Readers submit chinuch questions to a panel of renown educators
This week's question:
I know you've addressed forms of discipline repeatedly over the years, to great effect.
I am wondering if there is ever a heter for “humiliation lishmah,” as a rebbi I know termed it, i.e., singling a child out for punishment that might hurt his feelings. This might mean sending him down to a younger class, making him stand in the corner, or, in older grades, some other form of punishment.
By definition, discipline requires some sort of deterrent. Is there a happy medium of acceptable discomfort, something that will make a child think twice before misbehaving, but is still not a violation of bein adam lachaveiro?
What are the guidelines?
For the response, see this week's printed edition.