Readers submit chinuch questions to a panel of renown educators
This week's question:
Our son is ten years old and we have mixed feelings about cultivating a proper attitude towards his shul/davening experience. On one hand, we want to train him in the responsibility and diligence that he will need as a gadol, when he ismechuyav bemitzvos. On the other hand, he seemed to have started off his shul-going career with more excitement, whereas now it has become more of a drag. It's not that he disturbs others; he is just bored and fidgety.
This question really carries over to davening at home as well. How on top of him should we be to make sure that he says the words and spends the time he needs to? He certainly sees his father's diligence and serious attitude towards tefillah, but is observing really enough? Shouldn't this important area require a more hands-on training approach?
What is the correct balance in enabling our child to develop a love for shul and davening, while at the same time nurturing him with a sense of responsibility and schedule?
For the response, see this week's printed edition.